I have always been the person who gets upset if they find out someone dislikes/hates them. All my life I have tried to treat everyone kindly-since it is the polite thing to do. But through college, I have realized that I have made people dislike me through my actions of trying to please others. And I have had to stop trying to be a people pleaser. And seek independence. Because no matter how nice you treat others, others may decide to treat you horribly. And down the line, people will have moved on and you are left to fend for yourself. If you continue to be a people pleaser you end up not looking out for your own interests and becoming unhappy.
I am trying to get out of this cycle of trying to please people because I have learned the hard way that looking out for others interest may not coincide with your own interests. Others do not necessarily look out for your best interests, but their own. The world is full of self interested people. And if you do not look out for yourself, you can get hurt a lot more easily.